The Windsor Star also covered this topic, they interviewed Joanna Conrad, executive director of the Essex County Diversion Program. ]]> http://talktocrona.com/featured/i-was-interviewed-by-cbc-news-about-sexting/feed/ 0 http://talktocrona.com/counseling-resources/learn-about-eft-from-the-founder/ http://talktocrona.com/counseling-resources/learn-about-eft-from-the-founder/#comments Fri, 24 Feb 2012 19:17:15 +0000 Crona Airgid http://talktocrona.com/?p=160 This simple technique can actually affect each cell in the body. Proof is provided by looking at the blood cells before and after the technique. Once you learn it and use it, you will always have the ability to make dramatic changes in your life. See a man that was in a wheel chair with MS do jumping jacks sometime after learning this technique and using it in his everyday life.

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SUDs: Subjective Units of Distress.
On a scale from 0 to 10, how big a problem or issue is it? With 0 meaning no problem, 10 meaning the worst possible problem.

Start by Removing Some Common Psychological Reversals or Healing Blocks
While tapping the edge of the palm (karate spot), repeat three times.  If you feel more is required, repeat three times with the sore spot. (You will probably feel some kind of shift or change, once you get in tune with your inner knowing.)

1. Even though I have this problem, I completely love and accept myself with all my faults and limitations.
2. Even though I don’t want to let go of this problem, I completely love and accept myself with all my faults and limitations.
3. Even though I may not deserve to get over this problem, and other people may not deserve for me to get over it, I completely love and accept myself with all my faults and limitations.
4. Even though I may want to keep all of  this problem or some of this  problem, I completely love and accept myself with all my faults and limitations.
5. Even though it’s not possible to get over this problem, I completely love and accept myself with all my faults and limitations.
6. Even though I may not do what I need to do to get over this problem, I completely love and accept myself with all my faults and limitations.
7. Even though I have a vested interest in keeping all or part of this problem, I completely love and accept myself with all my faults and limitations.

These are general and common reversals.  Even if they may not consciously register as a belief or fact with you, you may have some subconscious beliefs that require attention.

Tapping points

Gamut Sandwich

Deluxe: While focusing on an issue, tap all the points; do the gamut tapping; and tap all the points again.
Quick:  Tap the first 7 points, do the gamut tapping, and tap the first 7 points again.

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The five stages of grief are:

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression

Dos & Don’ts for Dealing with your Children

1. Recognize that they love and need both parents.
2. Don’t turn them into messengers. (Mom and Dad should talk to each other directly).
3. Don’t say bad things or give “subtle insults” about their other parent.
4. Don’t grill them about what is going on at their other parent’s home, etc.
5. Don’t ask them to take sides.
6. Don’t make them feel like they’re being disloyal if they enjoy being with their other parent.
7. Don’t purposely forget important clothing or gear when they are going to the other parent’s place.

Your feelings about Separation and Divorce

Most people report feeling a great deal of anger at some point during or after the breakdown of their marriage.

1. It is not uncommon to direct this anger inward, sometimes becoming with drawn or depressed;
2. In other situations, a person may direct their anger outwardly, such as toward the former spouse or by being irritable to others around them;
3. It is very important that you acknowledge and appropriately channel the feelings that you have;
4. To assist yourself with the pain associated with the separation/divorce, you may need to reach out for extra emotional support from family and friends, look at participating in some leisure or community activities, or establish personal relaxation strategies;
5. It may also be necessary to seek more formal forms of assistance for your emotions, such as support groups or individual counseling services.

Your Child’s Feelings

1.  Children commonly feel intensely guilty about the separation/divorce;
2. Often children hear their parents arguing over child-related issues and therefore assume that their behavior has caused the marital conflict;
3. Also, children have a need to believe that their parents are competent in making their world safe and happy, therefore to preserve this ideal will look to themselves as the problem rather than considering that their parents incapable of resolving the situation;
4. Negative statements made by well-meaning relatives and friends, and by one parent about the other parent, are all too common in the aftermath of separation/divorce. These comments are not helpful in providing emotional support for the child;
5. Children generally feel love for both parents; therefore hearing such comments will result in a child feeling conflicted.

Even “subtle insults” about one parent can be very destructive to a child. For example, you would be making a “subtle insult” if your child returns home from a visit with The other parent and you act as if the visit never occurred, or conversely, if you ask loo many questions or make criticizing comments such as “he let you do that?” or “so no one helped you with your project?”.

Other examples of “subtle insults” would include:

1. smirks
2. rolling of the eyes
3. sighs at the mention of your child’s other parent
4. discussing your negative encounters with this parent with someone while your child is present but supposedly not listening.

A child easily personalizes such negative messages, and may conclude that if their parent is a “bad” person, then they, as an extension of this parent, must also be a “bad” person. Children need to see their parents as “good” people in order to feel good about themselves. Separation/divorce in itself will not destroy children.

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1. Anticipate power struggles before they occur. Knowing your child’s triggers will help you avoid power struggle traps (i.e. Child has had little sleep, is hungry, child generally feels anxious/upset at certain times of the day, etc.)
2. Think before you react. Think about the issue presented and what you think is the best decision for your child.
3. Establish your non-negotiable limits in advance and state them clearly to your children. Ensure that you and your spouse/partner are in agreement with the rules, and that you and your children are all clear on what rules will be strictly enforced. It is appropriate to hold onto your parenting controls when the outcomes affect things such as safety, health, or family values.
4. Re-evaluate your rules on a regular basis to reflect the gains the child has made in relation to their developmental stage. For example, your child may have had the rule that they needed to cross the street holding an adult’s hand at four years old, and as he matured and acted responsibly this rule changed so that he could cross the street with a parent watching, then it progressed to him walking across unattended, etc.
5. Pick your battles. Sometimes it is helpful to negotiate compromise or offer choices to your child. Make sure that the choices are reasonable and limited to one or two.
6. Ask yourself the question, “is this a decision that my child could make for herself?”. If the answer is “yes” offering choices will empower your child to make decisions for their own lives within your established limits. For example, you helped your child choose the clothing that now hangs in their closet however, they can choose out of their closet what to wear for the day.
7. Point out the choices and control that your child does have rather than focusing on the things that they are not allowed to do.
8. Watch your child’s body language. Children often show their emotions wearing thin when they begin to whine, raise their voice, become increasingly agitated, etc.
9. Remain as calm as possible and take breaks as needed. If you feel that you are losing control leave the room and determine a time that would be better to talk. Ignore and redirect your child if they become whiney or argumentative.
10. Recognize your child when they have been cooperative and provide genuine praise. We often focus on the behavior that we do not like and forget to reinforce or reward the cooperative behaviour that we want to encourage and see more of.
    

When dealing with power struggles, it may be helpful to recognize the following:

• Children often think on impulse
• Children thrive on structure and routine
• Children are trying to determine their placement ¡n the family, relationship, etc.
• Children and adolescents are always in search of attention (whether positive or negative!)
• Children need to make some decisions. When children are allowed some control over the smaller decisions (ie. what to wear, when to brush their hair, etc.) they may be more accepting of the non-negotiable big decisions such as safety, health, and family values
• Children are able to cooperate when they are developmentally able to do so. Children who are a year old may only able to follow one simple direction whereas an older child may be able to follow directions that include more than one step
• Preschoolers are developmentally at the stage of exploring their sense of power and control. Preschoolers attempt to determine how much control they have, how things work, how things get accomplished, what their impact is in their environment and how they can make things happen
• Adolescents are at a developmental stage where they want to explore their independence and assert their perception of their world. Adolescents will challenge family values as a natural process to learning and defining who they are and what they believe in.

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